Moms should find time for a “ME” time. Specific instruction on “ME” time and not “MOM” time.

This is not being selfish and all, wanting to spend time with one’s self, without the children, without thoughts of unfinished house work (well, there better be no house work to think about as these should all be done the soonest possible time) and just being a “ME” and not a “MOM”.

What were you before you became a mom? What activities did you enjoy most? What hobbies did you cultivate before being a mom? What activities do you like to engage in with your “ME” time?

• Do you like to read?
• Do you like to dance?
• What about learning a musical instrument or a foreign language?
• Do you like to further enhance your singing voice?
• Do you like to get fit and join a group of people wanting to become fit?
• Do you like to get a graduate degree course?
• What about gardening? cooking? sewing? crafting? driving?
• Or do you just want to have an hour or just half of it to take it slow and have a refreshing nap?
• Perhaps you just want to enjoy a bar of your favorite chocolate all by yourself?

Whatever it is you want, like or need to do for yourself, find time for it and do it. Fix your schedule so that you are able to manage your time and resources. If it is not possible to leave the house because there would be no one to mind the children, then you can do virtual lessons in cooking, sewing, crafting, fitness exercises and even learning a musical instrument. The possibilities are endless as long as you are willing to plan ahead.

And please, do not feel guilty about spending “ME” time because you deserve this after all the hard work you put in the care of your children and your household.

Personally, “ME” time is not to be spent a few hours away from the children and the household every day, doing things and spending time with people who do not contribute to your own personal growth.

What is it then?

It could be…

• once-a-week salon pampering,
• lunch with friends,
• coffee time with college buddies you haven’t seen for a few months,
• a movie with your BFF,
• a once a week formal lessons in cooking, crafting, sewing, dancing, and gym time,
• early morning/evening walk in the neighborhood,
• reading one book per week
• enjoying a slice of your favorite chocolate cake. Alone.

When your children see that you are happy, that you love yourself as much as you love them, that you don’t stop learning new things, then you inspire them to do better because they have you as their role model. Isn’t that what we would like for our children?

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