Quezon City Rush Hour Traffic

Tonight, thankfully the youngest child and I have arrived before the rains came. Going home is a struggle for a lot of people here in Metro Manila, especially to those who ride the public transport. And even if people drive their own cars, the traffic situation is horrible especially during afternoon rush hour till late evening. Or maybe it is just here in our area?

How to keep sane inside a vehicle during rush hour traffic in Metro Manila (and elsewhere there’s traffic)?

  • Listen to music that you really love. If you are a commuter, bring your own earphones to listen to the music that suits your taste because chances are, the public utility vehicle you are riding has its own music. This also prevents you from listening to the incessant yakking of someone sitting close to you. Beware to not play too loud music that you are not aware of the things happening to you.
  • Organize your thoughts and affairs by being mindful amidst the chaos. If you are driving, you can’t do this too much because you need all your faculties on alert during traffic.
  • For passengers who are not too sensitive with the vehicle’s motions, you can update your social media accounts to while away the time or watch a movie or videos on your phone. Be sure to secure your phone with you and that you are still aware of the people around you.
  • Talk to the person you are with, it will make travel time easier and seem faster. Just don’t talk too loud that others are sending you dagger looks.
  • If you are a passenger, perhaps you can try to meditate amidst the passengers around you. Tune out the noise and concentrate on your thoughts.
  • Bring food to nibble, breath mints and candies to chew and drinks for when you are thirsty. Don’t overdo for you may not be able to take a bathroom break in the middle of EDSA or Marcos Highway riding with 9 other passengers. Make sure that the food is not too aromatic that may incite the hunger pains of the other passengers to be more pronounced.
  • Be patient. Keep your cool and remember that like you, everyone wants to go home and rest after a tiring day at work.
Posted by julie @ 11:32 pm

I hope you understand that the words of wisdom I imparted to you are for your own good. I speak from experience and as much as I want you to learn from these, it is my desire to have you learn lessons with less hurt and pain.

I hope you understand that as a mom, almost every thought I have when I am awake and even in my sleep centers on you, my children. This is because I only want the best for you, I have you not just in my thoughts but in my fervent prayers that you are in God’s good graces and always feeling safe and secure.

I hope you understand that even if I fuss too much, I worry too much and I expect more from you, it is not because you are my children, but because you have the capability to think well and think wise. I may nag a bit too much but it is for your own good (and my sanity!) that we are all learning how to make things work well in a concerted effort and through collaborations and being  open to each other.

I hope you understand that there are times when the going gets rough, the tough just wants to make everything work out right for all of us. It may be just frustration that rears its ugly head at the heat of the moment but please, if we both exert effort to run a well-oiled routine, then we both know what to expect and what to do. If not, let these diversions from routine help make us adapt to changes easily.

I hope you understand that everything you and I are doing is for your own good because no parent wants his/her children to go down the path that will bring them a lot of disappointments and heartaches. There may be sacrifices and rough patches along the way but understand that life and its lessons are learned through a process that has its ups and downs.

I hope you understand that I love you and that everything I do for you is what I think is best for you. You may not appreciate all these things now but in time, you will. I know it not because I know I am right but because I once was like you, defying borders, trying to see how I can change circumstances the way I see fit and trying to do everything that I think I can do all at the same time. I have gone through disappointments and failures but because my own parents instilled in me values to help me be strong and wise, I can say I am exactly where I thought myself to be.

Remember this, life lessons may be tough and difficult but because we have both learned to adjust, to cope and to think wisely, you may very well become that person you envision yourself to be, on your merit, with us cheering you on at the sidelines.

I hope you understand. I know you do and for that, thank you for understanding.

Posted by julie @ 9:36 am

Soul-searching

 

You can still vividly recall snippets of conversation that you can only repeat because there are no more new ones to talk about. If you’d rather not repeat because these tend to make you reminisce what can’t be brought back, then don’t.

You remember images that carry the warmth of smiles and the gaiety of shared laughter that you will probably not experience with the same people you used to share these with. You have had experiences that taught you new things and remembered old ones too. Let these be your learning experiences.

But now, you can remember and not feel the pain that goes with friendship unhinged without closure, without knowing the answers to questions left unsaid and to doubts that are just best left buried along with the memories.

You tell yourself that people should take a walk in your shoes before they judge you. You want to say that people should not base their opinions on one or two episodes of character weakness because everyone undergoes this because no one is perfect.

You tell yourself that despite your imperfections, there are people who love you for who you are, without judgment, without reservations and without seemingly trying to measure if you come up to their expectations of perfection that they seem to perceive themselves to have.

You tell yourself that you do not feel sadness anymore because you have moved on and experienced healing of your heart that was broken for reasons unknown, your mind bothered no more and your soul longing for those people who can see beyond your quirks and imperfections.

Now, you’d rather be with people who love to talk about ideas and other pursuits. Now, you can be your own person and not be perceived as someone you are not, based on the company that you used to keep and that somehow defined you as the person you are not.

Stand up and be a better version that your best you. Not because you have other interests mean that you are less than what other people see themselves.

Let this be your mantra: that it is better to focus on the more positive outlook in life than to dwell in the past and lament those who tried to break your soul and the essence of your person.

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Taking endless photos and videos are the things people do to record, remember and share baby milestones with family and friends. Photos and videos show babies’ developmental new tricks and other developmental progress.

People with social media accounts like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram usually see these baby photos and videos posted by relatives and friends. Of course, there’s no denying that we love “oohing” and “aahing” these photos of the little ones.

On the other hand, there are times when it feels like there is over sharing and too much “exposure” for the baby. This is called “sharenting”.

If you parents, however, feel that you need to share these photos and videos on your Social Media accounts, there is no stopping you.

Here are guidelines which may help you ensure you do not endanger the baby’s safety and privacy from exposure to social media:

1. Tinker with the privacy settings of the Social Media accounts to make sure photos are not shared indiscriminately.
2. Turn off geotagged photos which show locations.
3. Only share with people you really know.
4. Ask yourself if you want people you do not really know see the photos you are sharing.
5. Ask yourself if you are willing to take that risk to have your baby’s photos used in other sites without your knowledge and permission.
6. If still you want to share, put watermark on the photo or least blur the baby’s face a bit.
We should value our privacy now more than ever especially since social media accounts are vulnerable to having its contents used by people of bad intent. This has happened and is happening. At this very moment, who knows that photos of your little ones have already been posted elsewhere?

Read more on Sharenting.

Compassion is a word that spans a whole wide range of concepts. Compassion is an emotion, a (deep) awareness people feel when they see the sufferings of other people. This compassion fuels the motivation and the desire to help relieve others of these sufferings.

“Compassion is often seen as the foundation of morality”, according to the author of “Just Babies, The Origin of Good and Evil,” Professor Paul Bloom of Yale University. “Compassion is what you could call caring, concern, fellow feeling, the idea that other people matter to us,” he further adds.
Nature of Compassion
One of the characteristics that distinguishes psychopaths from “normal” people is the lack of fellow feeling or lack of compassion. One may be highly intelligent and exhibits the same emotions and desires other people, but if he doesn’t care for others, he is a deviant. He will get something from another person like money or a possession and does not care if he hurts anyone when he does. He will even kick a dog when he feels bored, for example. If he is given a pep talk about him hurting others, he wouldn’t be convinced about changing his ways because he just doesn’t care at all.

The nature of compassion, of being compassionate comes from the feeling that other people matter to us and that we have a sense of what is right and what is wrong. What is right and what is wrong are debatable at times, depending on cultural and religious beliefs and practices among other things.

People are inherently fundamentally kind.

Despite having differences with other people, there are basic concepts and situations that are deemed universally acceptable as needing compassion or feeling a degree of caring and compassion.

Compassion starts at home

Me. I lovingly say soothing words with matching hugs and kisses when I wake the two younger children around 5am during school days. Twenty minutes after that, I yell at them “Baka dumating na ang service hindi pa kayo tapos, hindi pa nakakain ng breakfast. Dalian nyo na! Blah…blah…blah…” in the effort to hurry them up because they haven’t eaten breakfast yet and the school service is already waiting at the gate. Yes, I have done this, at 5:30am. Tsk.
BJ, a teenager. “I hate it when my mom yells. She makes me feel like I’m stupid. The more she yells, the more I want to do what she doesn’t want me to do. Talking to me and not yelling is better because the more she yells, the more I shut down my brain and stop listening to her.”
HK, a pre-teen. “Natatakot ako pag sumisigaw si Mama ko. Parang lagi na lang mali ang ginagawa ko. Baka sa galit niya pag sumisigaw siya, masaktan niya ako.”
YA, office worker. “Our boss is a yeller. He loses his temper quickly and does not hesitate to yell at anyone of us if we make a mistake. Sana kung ginagawa niya yun in private, eh hindi, sa harap pa ng mga officemates namin. We are not happy in the office anymore. We are thinking of a mass resignation, para matauhan siya.”

Why yell when you can perfectly say your piece in peace?

We have yelled for a thousand different reasons but first and foremost of these reasons would be because we want to assert that, yes, we are right and that the other person is wrong.

We yell because we want to prove a point and get our message across.
We yell because we want to be heard.
We yell because we feel superior to the one we are yelling at.
We yell because we are in a hurry and the others are slowing us down.
Why, we even yell virtually when we use ALL CAPS and end these with a lot of !!!!!
Sometimes we yell just because …

On the other hand, have you ever been yelled at?

Not cool.

Do you remember the last time you were yelled at?

We would want to forget yes, but the scene seems to keep playing in our head.

Mothers who yell.

A certain mom thinks her son is studying online but all the while he is visiting sites to see what he can buy at the online guitar store. 

Habitual yelling.

Yelling when one can perfectly speak well.

Alternatives to yelling.

Don’t we just want to know what yellers can do otherwise?

Breaking the yelling cycle is not easy.

HOW?

Read more here: Are You a Yeller? How to Break the Yelling Habit.

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