I hope you understand that the words of wisdom I imparted to you are for your own good. I speak from experience and as much as I want you to learn from these, it is my desire to have you learn lessons with less hurt and pain.
I hope you understand that as a mom, almost every thought I have when I am awake and even in my sleep centers on you, my children. This is because I only want the best for you, I have you not just in my thoughts but in my fervent prayers that you are in God’s good graces and always feeling safe and secure.
I hope you understand that even if I fuss too much, I worry too much and I expect more from you, it is not because you are my children, but because you have the capability to think well and think wise. I may nag a bit too much but it is for your own good (and my sanity!) that we are all learning how to make things work well in a concerted effort and through collaborations and being open to each other.
I hope you understand that there are times when the going gets rough, the tough just wants to make everything work out right for all of us. It may be just frustration that rears its ugly head at the heat of the moment but please, if we both exert effort to run a well-oiled routine, then we both know what to expect and what to do. If not, let these diversions from routine help make us adapt to changes easily.
I hope you understand that everything you and I are doing is for your own good because no parent wants his/her children to go down the path that will bring them a lot of disappointments and heartaches. There may be sacrifices and rough patches along the way but understand that life and its lessons are learned through a process that has its ups and downs.
I hope you understand that I love you and that everything I do for you is what I think is best for you. You may not appreciate all these things now but in time, you will. I know it not because I know I am right but because I once was like you, defying borders, trying to see how I can change circumstances the way I see fit and trying to do everything that I think I can do all at the same time. I have gone through disappointments and failures but because my own parents instilled in me values to help me be strong and wise, I can say I am exactly where I thought myself to be.
Remember this, life lessons may be tough and difficult but because we have both learned to adjust, to cope and to think wisely, you may very well become that person you envision yourself to be, on your merit, with us cheering you on at the sidelines.
I hope you understand. I know you do and for that, thank you for understanding.