Me. I lovingly say soothing words with matching hugs and kisses when I wake the two younger children around 5am during school days. Twenty minutes after that, I yell at them “Baka dumating na ang service hindi pa kayo tapos, hindi pa nakakain ng breakfast. Dalian nyo na! Blah…blah…blah…” in the effort to hurry them up because they haven’t eaten breakfast yet and the school service is already waiting at the gate. Yes, I have done this, at 5:30am. Tsk.
BJ, a teenager. “I hate it when my mom yells. She makes me feel like I’m stupid. The more she yells, the more I want to do what she doesn’t want me to do. Talking to me and not yelling is better because the more she yells, the more I shut down my brain and stop listening to her.”
HK, a pre-teen. “Natatakot ako pag sumisigaw si Mama ko. Parang lagi na lang mali ang ginagawa ko. Baka sa galit niya pag sumisigaw siya, masaktan niya ako.”
YA, office worker. “Our boss is a yeller. He loses his temper quickly and does not hesitate to yell at anyone of us if we make a mistake. Sana kung ginagawa niya yun in private, eh hindi, sa harap pa ng mga officemates namin. We are not happy in the office anymore. We are thinking of a mass resignation, para matauhan siya.”

Why yell when you can perfectly say your piece in peace?

We have yelled for a thousand different reasons but first and foremost of these reasons would be because we want to assert that, yes, we are right and that the other person is wrong.

We yell because we want to prove a point and get our message across.
We yell because we want to be heard.
We yell because we feel superior to the one we are yelling at.
We yell because we are in a hurry and the others are slowing us down.
Why, we even yell virtually when we use ALL CAPS and end these with a lot of !!!!!
Sometimes we yell just because …

On the other hand, have you ever been yelled at?

Not cool.

Do you remember the last time you were yelled at?

We would want to forget yes, but the scene seems to keep playing in our head.

Mothers who yell.

A certain mom thinks her son is studying online but all the while he is visiting sites to see what he can buy at the online guitar store. 

Habitual yelling.

Yelling when one can perfectly speak well.

Alternatives to yelling.

Don’t we just want to know what yellers can do otherwise?

Breaking the yelling cycle is not easy.


Read more here: Are You a Yeller? How to Break the Yelling Habit.

Posted by julie @ 5:21 am

We’ve heard the term Millennials but we do not really know who they are. To put things in a proper perspective, here is a list of terms used for different generations:

The Greatest Generation. Those born before 1928 belong to the generation that fought and won (or lost) World War 2.

The Silent Generation people born from 1928 through 1945 are also known as the “Children of the Great Depression and World War 2”. They are said to be “silent” because most of them are conformists and has a striking contrast with baby boomers.

The Baby Boomers are those born after World War 2 and around 1964, when the birth control pill was first introduced to the market.

Generation X are those born from 1965 to 1980. They are also called the GenXers.

Millenials or the Generation Y refers to those born after 1980. They grew up during the time of the World Wide Web.

Generation Z are called digital natives or those born from 1995 onwards. These young folks grew up in time social media. They can also be referred as the ‘Google generation.’ They can tell you what a fender cd 60ce faster than you can search it yourself.

If you are born before Gen Y or Gen Z period but consider yourself as tech-savvy and updated with everything “modern” and “high-tech”, then take this quiz How Millennial Are You to see if you ought to be categorized with the Millennials.

Many people remembered Ondoy when Mario came.

No, these are not people’s names but names of weather disturbances that wreaked havoc to the country’s National Capital Region and its suburbs.

Ondoy deluge happened five years ago, on September 26, 2009.

I wrote a post about our experience during Ondoy in this post.

A week after Ondoy ravaged mega Manila, Pepeng did so much damage to the northern part of the country.

Last week, another big weather disturbance wrecked havoc to the same area that Ondoy ravaged. His name is Mario.

In this article I wrote, I asked three people to recount their experience during the two deluges:

Remembering Ondoy

*Louie’s son *Clay spent the night at his Lola’s  home in Marikina. Lola’s home is a two-storey house near the Tumana River. During Ondoy, he slept on the roof together with his Lola and Yaya  while his dad, Louie (and their dogs) slept on the roof of his SUV at their house in Cainta.

*Faye, who just gave birth to her second child, a daughter, spent their time on the second floor of their home with her husband, her son and his nanny during the onslaught of Ondoy. When the rains let up, they walked on top of fences to go to a higher place and seek refuge. They spent a few months at Faye’s family home in Rizal while their home was being repaired after cleaning up was done.

*Anne recalls Ondoy vividly as if it happened yesterday:

“Ondoy brought ceiling-high flood waters into our home, causing us to take refuge in a neighbor’s house opposite ours. The flood rose so quickly, we fled with only the clothes on our back, our wallets which could not buy us any food, and our mobile phones which soon either ran out of load or battery juice.

“We took turns sleeping in a room provided for us by the kind neighbor or looking out the window watching the water gobble up our house — roof and all — in a matter of an hour and later recede inch by painful inch over the following two days and two nights. We were hungry, wet and dirty; worried over our two girls who were stranded in Quezon City; and anxious over our dogs whom we left behind.”

The Mario experience.

Louie and Clay did not have to experience the recent floods that ravaged Cainta because they left the place soon after Ondoy to live someplace else that is flood-free.

Anne and her family also put up their stuff on the second floor of their homes. After Mario left, she woke up to an organized home, thankful the waters stopped short of their gate and for extra hands that moved furniture and stuff back where they belong.

Faye and family were as fortunate. The flood only threatened but didn’t quite enter their house. However, they now have to move their stuff back to the first floor. Hard work, she says, but still a breeze, compared to what they went through during Ondoy.

Lessons from Ondoy… read the complete article here at the Philippine Online Chronicles.

Posted by julie @ 11:56 am

How can a disease be considered as rare?

Here are a few facts about rare diseases:

  • There are about 6,000 to 8,000 rare diseases and three-fourths of these affect children.
  • According to the World Health Organization, a rare disease has a prevalence of 0.65 to 1%.
  • A third of those afflicted with rare diseases die before reaching age 5.
  • Most of these rare diseases have genetic origins while the rest are results of bacterial or viral infections, allergies and environmental causes.
  • Rare diseases are often degenerative, chronic, progressive and life-threatening.
  • In the Philippines, when one patient in every 20,000 is affected by a certain medical condition, this is considered rare.
  • Patients afflicted with rare diseases often have their quality of life reduced to taking medications, check-ups and suffering from pain.
  • They are often dependent on other people to attend to their basic needs. They also need lifelong medical care, food supplements, medications and multidisciplinary therapies to alleviate the symptoms and effects of the disease.
  • The family dynamics of the person with a rare disease is also affected due to intensive care that the patient needs to have the condition improved and to prolong lifespan.

Some of the rare diseases that patients in the Philippines have been diagnosed with are the following:

Read more about the article published at the Philippine Online Chronicles. 

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