Today marks the end of the Christmas holidays and most everyone I know are back to school or back to work, gruelling or otherwise.
Do you have a 2014 resolution to do better, bigger and more improved things? If you do, then here is an excerpt from an article I wrote and published on “How to Plan to be a Better You in 2014”
“Nothing in life matters quite as much as you think it does while you are thinking about it.”~ Kahneman and Thaler
How was the year 2013 for you? How would you honestly answer the following questions that may help you assess how you performed?
· Did you reach the goals you have set for 2013? What were your considered wins and losses?
· Did you spend enough time to bond with your family and loved ones? Did you spend time for yourself?
· What are you grateful for during 2013? What made you happy? What gave you fulfilment?
· Can you think of three words that best capture the essence of 2013?
· What was the biggest improvement in your life this year? The best memory?
· What were the obstacles you overcame and how did you overcome these?
· What activities do you think you should drop because these are time wasters and make more time for?
· What regrets, if any, did you have?
· What life lessons have you learned that will help you for 2014?
Below are just a few simple suggestions on how to best reflect on what has happened in the past year to help you focus for 2014:
Set realistic goals. Goal setting is the first thing you need to do to be able to focus on how you will face 2014. By doing task analysis, you can break complex tasks into a sequence of smaller steps and actions with the completion of the complex goal as an end task. You must also remember to set attainable, measurable and timely goals that will make you feel successful. This way, you are able to manage your time, resources and pace and not feel stressed. If you plan to lose weight, for example, set a goal to lose a pound or two per week and not 50 pounds for the whole year.
Celebrate your life’s little successes. Through realistic goals, you get to savor life’s little successes which make you feel accomplished thereby setting the pace to up the challenge. It doesn’t hurt to “pat yourself on the back” and congratulate yourself for a job well done, even if these are just little steps towards the big goal. Measuring life in leaps and bounds is overwhelming when you tend to overlook the little steps it took to be where you are right now.
Disconnect to connect. Instead of holding your mobile gadget, hold your loved one’s hand. Instead of communicating with your loved ones virtually, set up a coffee date and put your turned off mobile gadget in your bag so that you can do a heart-to-heart talk.
Visualize or write down notes. Ever heard of the vision board? It is a board where you cut and paste photos of your goals (like a dream vacation destination, a new house, a new you!) on a board that serves as a reminder of how far along you are toward the end line. If you are inclined to be more private and would rather keep these goals to yourself, writing on a journal helps a lot in tracking what has already been accomplished.
Slow down. Take time to smell the flowers, so to speak. Slowing down allows you to reflect and ponder on where you are with your goals and what changes, if any, would help you along the way.
Choose happiness. Be happy and celebrate life’s little successes. This can be done not by buying for yourself a little token but by feeling good about yourself, helping others along the way, smiling more often, counting your blessings and just being positive. If you encounter pain and disappointments along the way, choose to be strong and know that the pain, struggle and disappointment will soon pass by.
Be grateful. For everything, be grateful. If you feel today is the worst day in your life, find something to be grateful for and if you do so, then know that everything will turn out well.
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