I posted this question in FB the other day:
How do we tell our kids that everything is ok if they are disappointed, their expectations not met and their hearts and spirits broken?
This school-year has started out smoothly with the kids but we experienced a few bumps along the way. One has set us back big time and the other was tolerable. Looking back to my daily “Grateful today…” posts in Facebook (I think I should do this in this blog), I realize that we have more blessings than non-blessings or challenges. And for that alone, I am truly grateful.
We all make mistakes. Our children make mistakes and we, as parents should be there to guide them and not castigate and wait for the explanation why these mistakes happened. We may know the reasons or we may not know at all but the important thing would be to help them learn from these mistakes.
Our children will encounter hurts, pains, broken hearts and wounded spirits but what counts most is that we are there to help them grow stronger, learn from these things and guide them look for their own place under the sun and become better persons. Disappointments and mistakes will set us back and in doing so, we see the bigger picture from another angle and know that we still could do better.
We may know what should be and what is right for them but in the end, they themselves have to deal with these things and learn from these experiences. We step back and be the “wind beneath their wings” and not the puppeteer who will flap their wings for them or just have them stay in the nest, safe and sound.
Khalil Gibran wrote:
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
Here are more Life Lessons posts I wrote in the past.
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