Posted by teacherjulie @ 2:20 pm

My children are not the best behaved children in the world. In my eyes, they are not perfect.

Truth is, sometimes I have been on the verge of losing my cool in public when they are “not behaving” well. Like when they fight over that last glass of iced tea in a restaurant. Or when they, especially the little ones, tend to play when we are seated in the church and the eldest would make faces at them because she is annoyed. I could probably need extra pairs of hands to enumerate the countless times that I have thought “We should have stayed home instead”.

But children are children. They can’t just sit down and be quiet for a long time. They can’t be made to just stand at the sides and do nothing. At times, I let them be, playing and laughing around, within the acceptable and reasonable behavior in public. And as parents, we should know what these are. We should be sensitive to others around us.

Much as I love my children and would do anything to make them happy and develop their full potentials and interests, never would I permit them to do this, go around on roller blades (and it is not just the girl, there is also another boy wearing that) in public, in a restaurant:

I feel like I\'m a spy, taking a photo of these brats.

Shouldn’t there be rules about these? Or should it just be the parents’ discretion? Good thing my glass of drink didn’t spill when this girl hit it when she was propelling herself, holding on to my table. Hmph!

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4 May, 2008 @ 3:29 pm
Kongkong622 said:

“But children are children. ”
I totally agree with this. And “parents should be parents.” At all times. So where did these kids’ parents go? Or were they just too busy eating.

4 May, 2008 @ 6:24 pm
isza said:

me too.. never. for safety reasons. even if they tell me they’ll wear a helmet. what if they will be the reason for inflicting injury to others instead on themselves.

yuh children will be children. ilang beses ko na rin silang gustong kurutin because they can’t seem to behave well in public. hehehe..

4 May, 2008 @ 7:54 pm
lady cess said:

hay naku, i can so relate with the first part of your post.

about the roller blade shoes. ang alam ko, with these shoes, you can push the wheels into the soles so that you can use them like regular shoes. i wish the guardians asked the child to do this. baka rin kasi maaksidente.

4 May, 2008 @ 7:54 pm
lady cess said:

and titser, i miss you too girl!

4 May, 2008 @ 7:57 pm

One of my favorite parenting quotes says: “Adorable kids are the property of the general public. Rude kids belong to their parents.” bwahaha

Mga kids na ganyan, sa kanilang-kanila talaga!

4 May, 2008 @ 11:24 pm
caryn said:

true, true. this is so not permissable. their parents should know better. and these were real rollerblades no? man!

5 May, 2008 @ 12:19 am
monaco said:

I can relate to this. I may not be a parent but i have three pamangkins who I’ve seen grow right before my eyes.

I agree. Children are children, and they can be allowed to misbehave. But only to a certain extent, and especially not in public. My brother and I were raised by super strict parents and misbehavig was a super NO-NO! With my pamangkins, we were not as strict. We gave them a longer leash, but they were on leash just the same. Hindi pwedeng free reign, We didn’t want them to grow up misbehaved and regret it in the end.

5 May, 2008 @ 10:48 am
feng said:

call it conservative, but would never ever let my son wear one like that. talk about good manners and right conduct. :)

“within the acceptable and reasonable behavior in public” — I so agree. and even parents are no exception. I’ve seen one instance in a Mall where the mother scolds her son to death, with all the palo ng payong at kurot in public, nakakaawa yung bata.

5 May, 2008 @ 10:49 am
feng said:

BTW, T.Julie, hindi ako maka comment dun sa greenbucks latest post re: bidding, comments are closed daw. interesado pa naman akong magtanong.

5 May, 2008 @ 11:04 am
manilenya said:

Yan ang sinasabi na..kailangang pati mga magulang ay may disiplina hindi lang ang mga anak. The kids won’t do that if the parents will not allow them to do that.

5 May, 2008 @ 3:40 pm
Bang said:

Minsan kasi or madalas, di natin napapansin na we are spoiling our children. We tend to give them what they want not just what they need.

Have a nice day julie! BTW, I have a tag for you. :)

5 May, 2008 @ 8:10 pm
N!cE said:

I agree T Julie. Parents should correct their kids para hindi nakakahiya when they are on public.

Btw, I’m inviting you to post your onthoughts about this > http://www.mommastuff.com/?p=176

Thanks!

N!cE
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http://www.mommastuff.com

6 May, 2008 @ 12:25 am
GreyMom said:

Tsk. Unfortunately there are parents who need parenting themselves. This should have never been allowed. The management should have said something too. For safety reasons as well as for the welfare of the dining public.

6 May, 2008 @ 12:27 am

Hi Julie. I was here earlier but had some problems posting my comment. I’m back and hopefully my comment will go through this time.

I can relate to your first statement. My son can be quite a handful at times but like what you said, children are children.

Regarding the roller blades shoes, there’s a right place and right time for them. Parents should know better than to allow their kids to do that in a restaurant. They might bump into the waiter carrying food and drinks.

7 May, 2008 @ 3:12 am
geri said:

Children should be taught to be considerate with other people. Indoor skating/roller blading should be prohibited. I do wonder why parents allow it. Don’t they have a say with their kids?

9 May, 2008 @ 11:45 am
annamanila said:

Hmmm Roller blading in unprescribed places can be adventure, freedom. But freedom ends where another’s right to safe and unhassled dining, etc. ends. Yes, the issue here is teaching children to be considerate of others. Nasaan na nga ba ang mommy nila? Or did they sneak out from the rink?

9 May, 2008 @ 7:44 pm
julie said:

What irked me here Cookie,was when I complained to one of the waiters to ask them to sit down, parang walang narinig. Might be because they were a plenty, daming order, as against us. But even then…

9 May, 2008 @ 8:09 pm
julie said:

So true, isza, sometimes I really think, we shouldn’t have gone out, hehehe.

But still, to allow your children to do that, compromising their safety and others’ safety does not give them a correct message. As if they can just do what they want when they want it.

9 May, 2008 @ 9:52 pm
julie said:

Cess, these were the real things, not the ones that go with shoes and can be folded. Dapat pati yun bawal especially in the grocery stores and mall, safety hazard talaga.

I did not get these shoes for my kids, even if it was the in thing before.

9 May, 2008 @ 9:56 pm
julie said:

I love your line, Chateau, so true.

Like when the kids are misbehaving, we say to our hubby: “Yung anak mo” but when they are good, we say “Ang anak ko..” :D

9 May, 2008 @ 9:58 pm
julie said:

Yes, Caryn, those were the real thing. Hmmm..I told one of the waiters to ask them to stop but he didn’t do so. I just wondered if it was because they were more than us and would pay more than we will do. But then again…

Thanks for the visit.

9 May, 2008 @ 10:25 pm
julie said:

Monaco, speaking of leash, i do not look fondly at parents who put hand leashes on their children. Sheesh, the children look like dogs with two legs to me.

Would you do that to your child, should you become a father?

9 May, 2008 @ 10:30 pm
julie said:

Feng, ay, so many horror stories to be told. I admit, I lose my cool too, but I try to be discreet, especially in public, hehe. There are acts of kakulitan that are cute but not at all times. Depende sa situation.

Btw, read Nico’s schedule, long nap siya. Maybe because he sleeps late na and you are not aware of it. Julian nga is like a call center agent, awake till (after) MN. Or like a lolo, needs to watch something so he can sleep :D

9 May, 2008 @ 10:42 pm
julie said:

So true, Melai, and these children would not have the guts to do these stunts if their parents ask them to stop. Hay talaga, feeling special pa sila…

9 May, 2008 @ 10:57 pm
julie said:

So true, Bang. The downside of working away from home, parents tend to have their children do what they like, without thinking about risks to the children and to others.

thanks :)

9 May, 2008 @ 10:59 pm
julie said:

Nice, about corrections re public behavior, parents should include being able to make children be aware of their immediate environment before problems arise. Problem-solving skills need to be sharpened and practiced.

9 May, 2008 @ 11:02 pm
julie said:

Mary, I complained to a waiter but it seemed he didn’t hear me now understood what I said. Maybe because the family of this children occupied several tables so their bills are bigger than ours and we weren’t very significant, with regards to tips and sales :)

9 May, 2008 @ 11:05 pm
julie said:

Precisely my point rachel, which one waiter ignored when I voiced my concern. Hmph, porke we were just three and they occupied five or six tables :(

9 May, 2008 @ 11:07 pm
julie said:

Geri, kids are so much different to the kids before. Even in grocery stores and malls, those rubber shoes with wheels are allowed. Dapat hindi talaga, very dangerous, not just with the kids but with others too.

9 May, 2008 @ 11:09 pm
julie said:

AnnaManila, I don’t know who the parents were, i didn’t see anyone from their big group ask them to stop what they were doing. Asar, hehe.

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